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Weal and Woe: Being Transgender on the Internet

Last year, a call went out for trans writers to submit essays to an anthology about trans people on the Internet. I submitted a couple ideas, had one approved, and wrote it. Unfortunately, the project was cancelled before I received any editorial feedback. I have considered submitting it elsewhere, but I think it’s just better […]

When Snow Falls in November

It’s snowing in Allen Park, MI in November. Not a completely unheard of event, but it’s strange to see white powder on the ground while there are still some lingering dead-brown leaves on the trees.  It was snowing seven years ago on this day, too, the day my older daughter Dawn was born. I remember […]

HRT One Year Later

On November 18, 2013 I took my first dose of hormone replacement therapy. Now it’s one year later and I can hardly believe it’s been so long. On a day to day basis it is NOT that big of a deal. Except that it is, because I’m 100% certain that I’m thinking better and being […]

Moving the Trans Narrative Beyond Transition

A lot of trans people write coming out stories. It’s the standard trans narrative and the one that everyone seems to be interested in reading. Why not give the people what they want, right? Besides, if a trans person is going to tell their story than their transition is an obvious choice because it is […]

The Voice Problem

Even now, so many months into my “full time” transition, I’m conflicted about what I should do about my voice. Here’s the thing: I use my voice in my work A LOT. Heck, I’ve been recording podcasts with it! But while I function just fine in life with the voice I have, I know it’s […]

The Process of a Name Change in Michigan

I felt it would be worth laying out the steps I took for getting my name changed in my home state of Michigan (and specifically Wayne County). By cataloging my experience, I hope to show others how they can expect the experience to play out. I am not a lawyer; just consider this what I’ve […]

The Name Change!

The night before my hearing for my name change, I started to cry. This strange, melancholy mixture of regret, sadness, failure swept over me. It was like I was mourning; I guess would be the way to phrase it best. I blogged about it early Friday morning because I needed to work that crap out […]

Reflections on a Lousy Life

Later this morning I will be in a courtroom, awaiting my turn before a judge. After that, I will spend days putting the final nail in His coffin (metaphorically speaking). I’m feeling weird today. Part of me can hardly believe I’m here, at this point, less than two years after I started and less than […]

Transgender in a Genderless Society

In comments sections of news articles about transgender people and issues, I often see a question come up. If society didn’t have gender roles, would transgender people still feel transgender? Often this question is asked as a subtle way of implying that transgender is a mental illness and not a medical condition — in other […]

Still Lonely

I closed my OK Cupid account recently. It was never terribly active anyway, but I finally accepted that I probably wasn’t going to find anyone on there who wanted to be with me. The loneliness bug has been flaring up again this week, and the idea of a relationship is fresh in my mind. OK […]