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That Awkward Moment When …

… the President of the college asks you what you’re going to wear to work after you transition. That is a thing that happened. To be fair, he was trying to make a helpful rhetorical point, not just casually inquiring about my fashion sense. He was trying to suggest that, when I first transition in […]

Operation Teacher Transition

A couple of weeks ago, Nancy suggested that I do something for myself to mark the one-year of my suicide attempt. So I did — I came out at work. Well, no. I didn’t actually come out yet. But I did get the ball rolling. It felt like the right time to do it. After all, […]

Catching Up and Coming Out

The last month has been something of a whirlwind. My dad’s death pulled me away from work at a very busy time, made busier by a project I was involved in, and I’ve been rushing to keep up ever since. On top of that, I have been making preparations to move back into the house […]

The Packing Dilemma

[Hitting the rewind button here, and going back to the week my dad died to tell another part of the story. Bear with me while I catch up with the present. ] I had been dreading the phone call that would tell me my dad was dying. I was dreading it for all the expected […]

Why Every Crossdresser Must Tell His Wife The Truth (2014 Edition)

A year ago I wrote a post called “Why Every Crossdresser Must Tell His Wife The Truth.” It was my narrative of the day I came out, fully and completely, to my then-wife. [It was also, truth be told, the day that I first admitted to myself that I was probably more than just a […]

What Led To Me Coming Out

Okay. I promised to tell you all about what’s been going on in the last week and a half. So let me explain. No, there is too much. Let me sum up. About ten days ago, I got the flu. It was really bad timing — not that there’s ever a good time for influenza, […]

And Round the Prow They Read Her Name

I’ve not been blogging recently. Sorry. The last week or so has been horrible. I promise I will fill you all in soon. Right now, though, I just wanted to share with you what I posted to my old Facebook profile a couple hours ago. Folks, It’s time I came out with it and explained […]

Drip, Drip, Drip …

If I share this with you Never say a word They would never understand If they ever heard … — Blackmore’s Night, “Cartouche” The inevitable Facebook outing continues, albeit organically. I still have not “come out” publicly, still have not actively friended anyone, and yet people are putting two and two together and arriving at the […]

Facebook Will Out You In One Connection

Over the past year I have been so, so careful to keep my two digital lives separate. I didn’t use the same accounts, didn’t sign up for anything using the same e-mails, didn’t Follow myself or Retweet myself or ally with myself in Candy Crush. Then, last week I made a stupid error. It was […]

Ali Unvarnished

The other night, I posted this to my Twitter account: Under a table tightening bolts. No wig or makeup, which is why you can see lip stubble … pic.twitter.com/zqcX5Zo9Dd — Alison Hudson (@Ariamythe) January 8, 2014 I didn’t think much of it. I don’t think you are supposed to think too much about Twitter posts. That’s […]