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Marie Antoinette knew the importance of big hair.

Gimme head with hair, Long beautiful hair
Shining, gleaming, Streaming, flaxen, waxen

Give me down to there hair, Shoulder length or longer
Here baby, there mama, Everywhere daddy daddy

Hair, hair, hair, hair, hair, hair, hair
Flow it, show it, Long as God can grow it
My hair

— “Hair,” from the musical of the same name

When I posted the story and picture of myself on the first night I stepped out the door, I heard the same message from many different places: “You need hair!” And they were right. It was time for me to get serious about hair … and that meant finding a wig.

It’s interesting how important hair is to gender identity in our culture. We read a lot about a person from the way they wear their hair, and even today there’s a strong gender divide in the way hair gets styled. Let’s face it: if you mistake a man for  woman from behind, it is far less likely because of the clothes they’re wearing and far more likely because they had long, maybe even luxurious hair. At least, that’s the trope you see so often in films and television!

I’ve been letting my hair grow long recently, in the hopes that I might be able, in the long run, to avoid having to wear a wig. I don’t like the idea of a wig. I want to look the part from breakfast to bedtime. Like I said, hair is a part of gender identity, and I want that identity. I have been told more than once that I have “nice hair,” so I’m hoping that making the effort of growing it out (and the added softness and sheen that HRT reportedly brings) will mean I won’t need wigs.

But hair grows slowly. Around Christmstime I had gotten one of my severe buzz cuts — trimmed to about 3/4″ length — so even though I’ve been letting my hair grow for five months, it’s only about 4 inches long. Also, it has not been styled at allso it’s basically a puffy mushroom on my head right now. So yeah, it was time to get a wig.

I had no idea where to start, but some advice from a friend got me at least looking in the right places. Not surprisingly, I have a large head, which meant I had to have a large cap wig. What I quickly learned was that, for some reason, most large cap wigs come in short, feathered styles that would make me look like Bea Arthur. In fact, my hair is long enough that I could probably get it cut into one of those styles. But short cuts like those would only accent the masculine. Nope, I needed to go long.

Long hair styles in large caps being limited, I tried to balance looks with cost with fast shipping. I had read on several CD/TG “advice” sites that bangs were good for hiding large foreheads and that uneven cuts were better than straight cuts for de-emphasizing mannish face shapes. What I ended up with was this:

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It wasn’t too expensive, and it wasn’t too long, and I liked the style. I just hope it looks good on me! The wig is supposed to arrive sometime in the next week, so I won’t have too long to wait before finding out. Maybe I’ll even share a pic or two …


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Kira says:

I bought my first wig through Vogue Wigs. It wasn’t bad for a first and was on sale for less than $50 with shipping. The problem is getting the color right when all you are looking at is a picture on a web site, the one I got was the right color for when I was in my twenties, but my hair has lightened over the years so it looks too dark. I’m looking now for something new which is closer to my current color.

Ali says:

In all the searching I did for “wigs” and “large cap wigs” in Google, Vogue Wigs never popped up. Huh. They need to do more to improve their Google score! 🙂

Kira says:

They do. I don’t even remember what search terms I used when I found them. I know I searched not just for wigs but also monofilament wigs, best rated wigs, and top selling wigs. Whenever I do a search I try to do several related inquires to increase the results.

pi314chron says:

Ali, Great news! I hope your new wig is exactly what you want it to be. It will make a TON of difference, for sure! I, for one, look forward to seeing the NEW look!

Warmest,

-R-

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