So, I had enough fun writing the last “tips” article, I thought I’d put together another one. I’m just learning this stuff myself, but I like sharing what I’m learning for the next newbie who wanders by.
One of the first habits I developed after embracing my feminine side was underdressing. I suspect it’s one of the first habits many dressers develop because it’s quick and easy to hide and lets you constantly be dressing. Some swap out underpants for panties; others begin to wear pantyhose under their pants; others even wear bras under their shirts. It’s all good.
However, as a new crossdresser — and someone who’s come at it in her thirtysomethings — I’m not only man-sized, but also carrying extra weight. This makes bra shopping nigh impossible. Large size bras can be expensive (I haven’t found one less than $30 in my size), are hard to find (I’ve never found one my size in a store — even Walmart, who caters to their big clientele, rarely carries bras above 46 or maybe 48 on occasion), and often only come in large cup sizes (great for dressing, bad for trying to hide under a shirt). And besides, I’d like to lose the weight soon; I don’t want to spend big on an item now.
What I did find was, for $10 each, the JC Penney a.n.a. Strappy Cami in plus sizes. They come in women’s 1x, 2x, and 3x sizes, which normally size small for men’s equivalents; but in this case that’s a good thing. For me, at least, this means that they have a skintight — but not unpleasantly so — fit. They’re very comfortable, and the cloth will sort of cup and hold what you naturally have up there (come on, my fellow fat men, you know man boobs are part of the package). While it’s not exactly the look and feel of a bra, it’s a great first step for getting that *feel* when you’re starting out with underdressing.
I like the a.n.a. Cami in particular because of the fabric. It’s a nice blend of cotton, spandex, and modal (rayon), so it’s soft and smooth and stretchy without losing its shape. Not all camis I’ve seen in stores are made with the same material., and so all might not work equally well for this particular purpose. Remember, the point is to get them close to skintight, so that they mimic the feel of a bra and hold that shape throughout the day.
Someday I’ll invest in a bra, likely after I’ve slimmed down a bit. For now, I’m going to invest in more a.n.a. camis. And when I do slim down, they’ll loosen up and become functional as tops in my wardrobe.